To Parents: From our founder Scot Breithaupt Sr.
As a fellow parent and guilt ridden son, and a recovering addict; I have
a multi-faceted perspective to share with you. I hope I can be of
some help to you in this day
and age of “They’re just kids blowing off steam”… Please
don’t be fooled or put your head in the sand. Addiction has no
social, economical, race of academic barriers; it viciously attacks anyone
and
everyone…
Scared? You should be! Starting with alcohol, cigarettes, then pot, PCP,
Oxicodon, Smack/Heroin, Cocaine, or Meth… Their all stepping stones to death, hell
on Earth; Addiction. It will rob you of your children, their ambition, their
dreams, their joy in life… Their Future… Their life and yours
too! I am living proof of the lonely. Fear-filled, insane roller coaster
of life in
drugs. Use my failures to see addiction for what it is.
Open your eyes, open your mind to reality Mom and Dad. Kids are exposed to drugs
and alcohol in the home, TV, electronic games, the Internet, at Schol, and through
peers from such impressionable ages as 4 to 6 year olds and beyond. I am writing
you this from a jail cell, where I hear of horror stories that literally bring
me to tears. Our society is dieing from the inside, our future bleek.
Open your mouths to talk to your kids, but more importantly listen to your
kids! Drugs, alcohol, gangs, AIDS, and Chaos are rampant today. Listen
as they talk,
listen to what they do for fun, who they “hang with”. And ask
daily, “What’s
going on with you today?” Every day is an opportunity to be the parent
they need you to be! "Over 40% of High School kids drink regulary, 50%
have used drugs in some form, 1 in 12 have used extasy!
When there’s a problem at home or school don’t tell them they are
bad, dumb, or lazy. Do tell them they are good, bright, creative, and winners!
Find their positive aspects and praise their accomplishments. Motivate; build
them up! Open communications without consequences! They will hide the truth if
they get punished for saying it! Set “boundaries and clear consequences” for
bad behavior, but also set “rewards for accomplishments and good behavior”,
up front.
It’s 2008, not 1965; negative influences have multiplied since I was a
child. Mass media, laxed censorship and our “Drive to Provide” has
eroded the morals and goals of our society. Your kids need your leadership and
guidance daily. If you’re like me, and didn’t have such “guiding
or motivating or nurturing” parents or role models, get yourself help.
Get Educated! There’s “Price Parenting” at most schools,
organizations and foundations available for free! You only fail, if you
fail to try!
I failed my children and family by hiding my fears and painful past. I
didn’t
get help, I self medicated and hurt them all.
Lack of “family” and “boredom” lead to drugs, alcohol,
and gang involvement... take time for your kids, teach them parenting skills
and family first, it will benefit you and society for generations to come. Create
rituals for family activities. Structured meal times, house cleaning and recreation
too. It all promotes unity and self-worth. Please see the “Alternatives
and Fun Stuff” icon to get ideas to enjoy with your kids and family;
Every day is a gift, I threw away too many.
I deeply regret choosing to “Run and Numb,” missing so much of “life” with
my kids! It’s a blessing that they’ve avoided addiction; learning
from my failures. Don’t live in fear, get involved as a parent, seek
help when you need it. Give help when your kids need it. Be part of the
solution, be proactive, as a person and parent; the rewards are lifelong.
Drop me a line anytime, my failures can be your rewards! We’ll find
addiction solutions together and live in freedom eternally!
God Bless,
Scot A Breithaupt Sr, Founder
scot@faasthelp.com